"I saw Sarah when I felt at my lowest. I believed there was and never would be any light in my life. Sarah listened to me over and over again, she never became bored, uninterested, or short tempered with me, like many of my friends and family had. Sarah was there and I knew that I could talk if I felt like it or just sit and say nothing at all.

I began to look upon Sarah as a friend, and looked forward to our meetings where she would visit my home because I couldn’t face getting to her office.

I know Sarah helped me through my toughest time, and I am so glad that I was given her name, I would definitely recommend her to anyone who has lost someone, as she definitely has a gift, I feel that I have found in Sarah a living Angel....

My life is easier now, I still have my sad times, but they are becoming less frequent and less painful. And Sarah helped me not to feel guilty about moving on, albeit slowly." Kathy R

 

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Bereavement Poetry

I thought of you with love today, but that is nothing new. I thought about you yesterday and days before that, too.

I think of you in silence; I often speak your name. All I have are memories and your picture in a frame.

Your memory is my keepsake, with which I’ll never part, God has you in His keeping. I have you in my heart!

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When I come to the end of the road and the sun has set for me, I want no rites in a gloom filled room, Why cry for a soul set free?

Miss me a little - but not too long and not with your head bowed low, Remember the love that we once shared, Miss Me - But Let Me Go.

For this is a journey that we all must take and each must go alone, It's all a part of the Master's plan, a step on the road to home.

When you are lonely and sick of heart go to the friends we know and bury your sorrows in doing good deeds, Miss Me - But Let Me Go

Coping with Bereavement

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How you respond to a death or a bereaved person will be very individual and personal.  Sarah has the experience and judgment to approach every client in a unique and special way to suit your specific needs.

Some of the things people often say when someone dies are below. If you have suffered the loss of a loved one, reading this may help you to feel that you are not completely alone. If you are trying to support someone who has been bereaved, this may help you understand what that person is going through.

"I can’t believe it"
it may take you a long time to grasp what has happened. Some people carry on as if nothing has happened. It is hard to believe that someone important is not coming back.

"I feel nothing"
the shock of a bereavement can make you numb, you may feel you’re in a different world.

"Why did it have to happen?"
death can seem cruel and unfair, especially when you feel someone has died before their time or when you had plans for the future together.

"I feel such pain"
physical and mental pain can feel completely overwhelming and very frightening.

"I go over it again and again"
you can’t stop thinking about the events leading up to the death.

"If only..."
you may feel guilty about things you have said or did or that you didn’t say or do.

"I feel so depressed, life has no meaning, I can’t go on"
many people say there are times after a death when they feel there is nothing worth living for and they feel like ending it all.

"I hear and see her, what is wrong with me?"
thinking you are hearing or seeing someone who has died is a common experience and can happen when you least expect it.

"They said I’d be over it in a few months"
many people find it takes much longer to learn to cope without someone to love.

"One minute I’m angry and the next minute I can’t stop crying"
many people find the mood swings after a bereavement very frightening.

Advice for the Bereaved

You have the right to experience your own unique grief. No one else will grieve in exactly the same way you do. So, when you turn to others for help, don’t allow them to tell what you should or should not be feeling.

You have the right to talk about your grief. Talking about your grief will help you heal. Seek out others who will allow you to talk as much as you want, as often as you want, about your grief. If at times you don’t feel like talking, you also have the right to be silent.

You have the right to feel a multitude of emotions. Confusion, fear, disorientation, guilt and relief are just a few of the emotions you might feel as part of your grief journey. Others may try to tell you that feeling angry, for example, is wrong. Don’t take these judgmental responses to heart. Instead, find listeners who will accept your feelings without condition.

You have the right to be tolerant of your physical and emotional limits. Your feelings of loss and sadness will probably leave you feeling fatigued. Respect what your body and mind are telling you. Get daily rest. Eat balanced meals. And don’t allow others to push you into doing things you don’t feel ready to do.

You have the right to experience "griefbursts." Sometimes, out of nowhere, a powerful surge of grief may overcome you. This can be frightening, but is normal and natural. Find someone who understands and will let you talk it out.

You have the right to make use of ritual. The funeral ritual does more than acknowledge the death of someone loved. It helps provide you with the support of caring people. More importantly, the funeral is a way for you to mourn. If others tell you the funeral or other healing rituals such as these are silly or unnecessary, don’t listen.

You have the right to embrace your spirituality. If faith is a part of your life, express it in ways that seem appropriate to you. Allow yourself to be around people who understand and support your religious beliefs. If you feel angry at God, find someone to talk with who won’t be critical of your feelings of hurt and abandonment.

You have the right to search for meaning. You may find yourself asking, "Why did he or she die? Why this way? Why now?" Some of your questions may have answers, but some may not. And watch out for the clichéd responses some people may give you. Comments like, "It was God’s will" or "Think of what you have to be thankful for" are not helpful and you do not have to accept them.

You have the right to treasure your memories. Memories are one of the best legacies that exist after the death of someone loved. You will always remember. Instead of ignoring your memories, find others with whom you can share them.

You have the right to move toward your grief and heal. Reconciling your grief will not happen quickly. Remember, grief is a process, not an event. Be patient and tolerant with yourself and avoid people who are impatient and intolerant with you. Neither you nor those around you must forget that the death of someone loved changes your life forever

How Can Counselling Help?

After the loss of a loved one, many people find it helpful to talk about how they feel, share memories of their loved one, and what happened over and over again.  This is an imperative part of the healing process, and is best shared with a caring and supportive professional.

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Counselling sessions with Sarah can be arranged for £50 per session.

If you cannot face leaving your home, home visits can be arranged - please call or email Sarah to discuss your needs.